Twenty things I learned from 2016


  1. the people in your life at the beginning of the year can completely change by the end of it. that’s okay. people change and there’s nothing you can do about it.
  2. be nice to everyone. you honestly have no idea what people are going through. every person on this earth has something in their life or past worth collapsing on the ground in uncontrollable sobs over. what if the kindness you show them is the only thing to brighten their day.
  3. edit your playlists thoroughly and frequently. music has an indescribable ability to connect and heal – let it do its stuff.
  4. tell people how you feel. even if you’re scared it’ll burn your life to the ground. say it out loud – only good things will come of it.
  5. you can’t be happy all the time and it’s stupid to try to be. allow yourself to experience anger, sadness and hurt. it doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human
  6. give less of a shit about what people think of you. dye your hair blue, wear that kooky jumper – whatever gives you your kicks. life is SO much more fun like this.
  7. there is nothing wrong with spending time on your appearance. present your best self to the world every day
  8. girls, i cannot stress this enough – find yourself an older female friend. they will teach you so much, they will give you such great life lessons. they are vital and helpful and important.
  9. do not change yourself for anyone. if someone makes you feel your personality is flawed, that’s their problem. your strength is in your uniqueness
  10. make your bed. there’s nothing like coming home to a orderly, calming space
  11. sometimes the way you think of someone isn’t the way they actually are. it takes clarity to step back and separate the two
  12. physical contact is important. never underestimate the power of a hug
  13. when you’re angry, put on some gangsta rap and run, far and fast. expels nasty energy (and makes you feel powerful as hell)
  14. stand up for yourself. ladies in particular – guys have no right to treat you as anything less than an equal and if they do, let ‘em fucking have it
  15. making someone feel genuinely happy when they are hurting might be the best feeling in the world. no matter how much pain someone is going through, you made them forget about it for a few seconds. isn’t that something?
  16. bring a book everywhere and spend your free minutes reading. highlight the things you find intriguing – they have a funny way of adding to your life when you least expect it
  17. choose people who choose you. don’t waste time on people who show you time and time again they don’t care
  18. find your safe place. whether it be in the company of a friend, snuggled up under some fairy-lights or exploring a city anonymous and alone, know you can go there at any time.
  19. keep the promises you make with yourself. it’s such a positive influence on your mindset and sense of self-worth
  20. friends are essential. cultivate a wide friendship base and deep, genuine connections. invest in friendships like you would a relationship; at the end of the day, they’ll get you through anything

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